Honeymoon Ended The Day After We Were Married.

There are so many fractions of life that need support and a voice. Of
late a lot of violent stories have been released and it gives others a
glimpse into the rampant lives of abuse in our society especially
between couples who supposedly love each other.
The honeymoon period ended the day after we were married, six months
from when we first met. Dehinde is about six foot and about 225 pounds
in weight. I'm five foot four and 100 pounds. He grabbed me by the
waist and lifted me up against the wall. He grabbed my hands and bent
them backward, breaking one of my fingers. I was in shock. I was
stunned. But I didn't leave. A few hours after the incident, He broke
into tears and told me how sorry he was. I loved him so much, so I
believed him when he said it wouldn't happen again. But life became
hell after that.
For the next two months the abuse was nonstop. He kept me in a
constant state of terror. I'm not a drinker, but he'd toss a bottle of
beer in my face and say "drink". He'd punch me in the stomach or kick
me in the thigh if I didn't. I started walking on tiptoes around him,
fearfu of everything I'd say and do. But it didn't matter; the abuse
continued.
He dislocated my shoulder several times. He'd lift me up by the
ankles and bang my head against the floor in the living room. A part
of me wanted to leave, but another part of me hesitated. Somehow I
felt I was partially responsible for the abuse. If I hadn't made a
particular comment or if I had just sipped the alcohol everything
would have been OK. And for the first few months he was apologetic
after the beatings. He'd say he felt very bad and that he didn't mean
to hit me so
hard. He'd actually cry sometimes and show such remorse that I'd
forget my own pain.
He'd become romantic and sweet, and I'd fall in love with him all
over again. I started to isolate myself from friends and family. I
didn't want them to know about the violence. I put on a happy face
with my two kids and tried to act like things were fine. They knew
about the violence but didn't know the severity. When my mom wanted to
see me, I'd lie, saying I was busy. I didn't want her to see my
bruises. I was embarrassed. Sadly, the abuse worsened. The rapes began
about two months after we were married. I was dressing for
work when he came out of the shower and asked me where I was going. He
didn't wait for my answer. He threw me on the bed, sat on my stomach,
pinned my arms up beside my head and ripped off my clothes. "If you
want sex, wait until I get home tonight," I said. "You'll do it when I
want, and how I want," was his response. It got worse after that. He
would tie me up and put foreign objects such as necks of beer bottles
into my vagina. Five months into the marriage I endured beating after
beating. While most of the assaults were done when my children weren't
home, I was worried that they might step in and try to protect me. If
they did, they might get
beaten, too. I began plotting our escape, but it was difficult. He had
begun making threatening comments:
"You can never get far enough away from me. I will always find you.
If I can't have you, no one will." I felt trapped. How I left He had
disappeared for three days. I didn't know where
he was. I thought he had been in an accident. I called his phone; he
would answer but not say anything. He arrived home on the third night
at about 1 a.m. and immediately started screaming at me that he didn't
appreciate me trying to track him down. We were in the sitting room
and he grabbed the land- phone receiver and began to beat me in the
face with it. His eyes were red and flashing like I'd never seen
before. I ran to the bedroom, and he was right behind me. He picked me
up over his head and threw me across the room twice. I broke my
tailbone in the second fall. My 6-year-old daughter woke up. She must
have heard something and came to see what was happening. She just
stood there, stunned.
He looked at her and got scared for some reason. He went into the
bathroom to pack his things. I found my phone, fighting the pain from
the broken bone, limped to the living room, I then called my father
since then I have not set my eyes on Dehinde.

Breaking News - Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie Getting Married This Weekend at Their Chateau in France?

After months of speculation, a few sources close to BRAD PITT and
ANGELINA JOLIE suspect the pair will tie the knot this weekend at
their estate in France.

While they're telling everyone the big bash is a party for Brad's
parents 50th wedding anniversary, the fact they are flying in Robert
Procop (the designer behind Angie's ring), George Clooney and other
notable names, makes it appear as if the reception may really be hush
hush nuptials for the future Mr. and Mrs. Pitt.

"There's a real buzz around the estate," a source told THE SUN.

Earlier this week it was reported Brad was in the throws of planning
the wedding and had turned into quite the Groomzilla.

"Angelina isn't so bothered about when they tie the knot — it's Brad
who is piling on the pressure," a source told THE SUN. "He wants the
main house to be finished when the event takes place, even though the
close friends and relatives who are invited aren't the types to care."

OK! GALLERY: ANGELINA JOLIE SHOWS OFF ENGAGEMENT RING FROM BRAD PITT

Brad popped the question in April, telling reporters they hope to
marry once the United States recognizes marriages for all, but getting
engaged "made sense."

The pair have been dating since meeting on the set of Mr. and Mrs.
Smith in 2005 and have six children.

PASTOR ADEBOYE ON RETIREMENT!

Before now, there are serious of insinuations and side
talks about the retirement of the most respected and
powerful clergyman, Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye,
General Overseer of The Redeemed Christian Church
of God. Even during his 70th birthday, some certain
authorities in the church, we learnt, gathered to raise a
motion that the man of God should be retired as he
clocked 70.
In on of the articles written by the man of God, it was
discovered that he has already written about the kind of
retirement he wants. In this literary work, he well
explained how he intends to retire.
The article culled from the Open Heavens annual
publication of Monday October 3rd, 2011, Daddy
Adeboye, as he's fondly called wrote about `The True
Face of Retirement. He said God has so much to give to
man, and the spirit man has so much space to be filled
by God…..``Sometimes, when I see some of our elders
retiring, I shake my head because contrary to what they
think, it is only the beginning for them. Retirement
actually means more time to pray all night since you are
not going to the office in the morning.
The greatest literally work done by John the Beloved
was Book of Revelation-a revelation he got while
banished on the Island of Patmos. If God allows me to
retire, I would sit at His feet daily and learn from Him,
receive revelations and pour these into books for
generations unborn. This way, by His grace, I could
produce a book every month until he calls me home.''
Obviously, this should tell those who clamour for his
retirement that the respected man of God whose regime
as the G.O brought goodness to the church cannot be
retired by any man but God.
It's so evident that even when God has permitted him to
retire; he will still be involved in the work of God,
publishing revelations from God to the members of the
church and other denominations. 'Would sit at His feet',
of course, the only place a man can sit at the feet of
Christ is in the vineyard, so, it should be understood that
until God says come home, Pa Adeboye remains the
General Overseer of one of the biggest congregation
churches in the world.

My Husband Is The Best Couple On Earth – States Patience Jonathan

According to a recent newspaper publication, Nigeria's
First Lady, Mrs Dame Patience Jonathan made a very
heartbreaking grammatical blunder by stating " My
Husband Is The Best Couple On Earth"

Breaking News , Yoruba actor Dento dies at 58

Veteran Yoruba actor, Ahmed Oduola popularly known
as Dento died at 58 on Monday August 6, 2012 after a
long struggle with stroke.
Dento was buried in Ibadan on Tuesday, August 7
according to Islamic rites.
Colleagues say the deceased was a good actor, known
for playing different comedy roles in the Nollywood
Yoruba sector.
Dento was down with stroke which resulted in paralysis
on his right side, and he was off stage, unable to work
for about five years, according to NET findings

Peter Okoye and Lola Omotayo expecting second child

I. said it before and they denied it...now they've officially
announced it. Peter and Lola Omotayo are expecting another child. They
already have a son, Cameron, who will turn 4 next month. Big big
congrats to them!

Forbes Africa highlights 20 powerful women in August edition

In celebration of Women's Day in South Africa this month, Forbes
Africa has fielded in its August edition of its monthly magazine
Africa's most prominent women of 2012. Donning the cover on the August
issue is one of Africa's richest women Wendy Appelbaum as she talks
about 'why women in the boardroom should be making noise'. Although
the list is yet to be released online by Forbes, people are already
excited and eager to know who made it.
'It has been a long struggle for women in business, which is far from
over. History even records the first woman to work in an office in
Johannesburg. It was in 1894, screens were put up around her because
it was not appropriate for her to be seen – more on this in the. cover
story of the August issue', says Managing Editor for Forbes Africa,
Chris Bishop.
Popular Nigerian blogger Linda Ikeji is also featured in the
magazine. Forbes describes Ikeji, a former model and magazine
publisher,as 'Nigeria's highest paid blogger' in the article 'Beauty,
Brains and the Business of Blogging'. 'This edition also includes the
Forbes list of Africa's most prominent women as well as interviews and
inspirational stories of some of the continent's most powerful woman
to date', he concludes.

Police arrest pastor for killing father, uncle in Ebonyi

ABAKALIKI - EBONYI State Police Command,yesterday, said, it arrested
one Mr. Udoka Onwe, 22, for allegedly killing his father, Mr. Peter
Onwe. Elum, 60 and uncle, Mr. James Elum, 52, fro Umuogodo Akpu Ngbo
of Ohaukwu Local Government Area of the state.
We learnt that on interrogation by the police, the suspect confessed
that he decided to kill his
father and uncle because they were wizards and wanted to use
witchcraft to kill him, saying he killed them before they could kill
him.At a briefing, Police Public Relations Officer, PPRO, Deputy
Superintendent of Police, DSP Sylvester Igbo, who confirmed the murder
incident, said that it occurred about 5:am of the penultimate day. He
said the matter was reported to Ohaukwu police station Mrs. Onyemaechi
Onwe from Umuogodo Akpu Ngbo village of the local government area,
noting that the suspect would soon be charged to court as
investigations were still on to ascertain motive behind the dastardly
act.
He said: "5 am this morning, a case of murder was reported at
Ohaukwu police station by a woman, Mrs. Onyemaechi Onwe from Umuogodo
Akpu Ngbo village in Ohaukwu local government area of the state.
"She reported that one Udoka Onwe, m, 22 years murdered his father and
Uncle. The suspect has a church called Christ Rimites Church, CRC, and
when he was asked the reason he murdered his father and uncle, he said
that they were wizards and that they want to use occultic means to
kill him. "He has been arrested and he is still with the police. The
corpses of the deceased have been taken to Ngbo General Hospital where
an autopsy is
expected to be carried on the bodies."

Boko Haram - Arrest Ciroma, Lawal Kaita - Clark

Abuja — ELDER statesman and prominent Ijaw leader,
Chief Edwin Kiagbodo Clark, yesterday, stoked his
campaign against Northern leaders over the activities of
Boko Haram by asking security agencies to go after
former Minister of Finance, Mallam Adamu Ciroma and
former Governor of Kaduna State, Alhaji Lawal Kaita.
The former Federal Information commissioner, who
challenged former President Ibrahim Babamasi
Babangida to a joint public debate on national issues to
ascertain who is actually senseless or senile, insisted
that northern leaders must speak out on the activities of
Boko Haram if they were not backing the group.
Reading a prepared text on behalf of Chief Edwin Clark
at a Press briefing inAbujayesterday, Legal Adviser to
the Ijaw leader, Kayode Ajulo, said that Ciroma and
Kaita's comments before the massive killings could
serve as substantial evidence against them.
The E.K Clark statement
The text read in part: "Chief Clark's challenge to the
leaders of the North is predicated on the misguided
statements of some of the Northern opinion leaders
since the inception of this administration. For example,
in October, 2010 during a build up to the last
presidential election, Alhaji Lawal Kaita, a prominent
Northern leader promised to makeNigeriaungovernable
if the President did not come from the North.
"And as if on cue from Lawal Kaita, several other
leaders of Northern Political Leaders Forum, headed by
Alhaji Adamu Ciroma, of which Gen. Babangida is a
prominent member, followed suit with similar reckless
comments which might not only threaten peace in
Nigeria but also Nigeria's very existence.
"Recently in March this year, Lawal Kaita issued
another threat to the effect that the only condition
forNigeriato be one is for the presidency to come to the
North in 2015."
According to Clark, northern leaders must show
genuine commitment, be proactive and speak out now
towards addressing the challenges posed by the Boko
Haram insurgency against the backdrop that precious
lives of Nigerians were being wasted daily across the
country in Borno, Yobe, Sokoto, Kano, Katsina, Kogi,
Abuja and Bauchi among others.
On General Babangida's reaction to his public lecture
last Wednesday, particularly where it was alleged that
senses had since departed him,Clarksaid that the public
debate or discourse with Babangida must be free of
interference and prompting from aides.
He added: "Let it also be noted, for the record, that Chief
Clark delivered a one hour, 20 minutes lecture very
coherently and articulately without having to refer to a
written text. Nigerians stand a better position to judge as
to who is senseless or senile as suggested by Gen.
Babangida who can only make public utterances
through texts prepared by aides and speech writers."
Insisting that the former military president was side-
stepping comments on Boko Haram,Clarkurged
Nigerians to ask why he had been silent for so long on
the issue.
How it all started
The exchange of brick-bats between Clark and
Babangida started last week Wednesday when Clark at
theSecondStateof the Federation Lecture organised by
the Nigerian Institute of Advanced Legal Studies, NIALS
inAbujaclaimed that some northern leaders were not
speaking out against increasing spate of violence in the
country.
He had specifically challenged Babangida and former
Head of State, General Muhammadu Buhari to
condemn the activities of the Boko Haram group that
have claimed responsibility for the insurgency
campaign in many parts of the country.
But replying the elder statesman on Sunday through his
spokesman, Prince Kassim Afegbua, Babangida
slammed Clark for not recognizing the historic role he
played in unifying the country, just as he warned Clark
not to crucify him, adding that with his age, what should
be the cardinal posture of Chief Clark was to proffer
solutions to the problem of insecurity in the country.
According to Babangida, "we view this misguided and
senseless statement in very bad taste and we take very
strong exceptions to his drooling and implied
conclusion."
Countering yesterday, the elder statesman, who
described Babangida's statement as total insult and
total misconceptions, said, "the statements showed
nothing but insulting miscomprehension and
misconception of Chief E. K. Clark's innocuous
expressed opinions and the challenge thrown down to
the leaders of the North on the need to resolve the Boko
Haram menace.
"Ordinarily, Gen. Babangida should have joined many
other Nigerians who applauded Chief E. K. Clark for
crying out over the wanton loss of lives being
experienced daily over the senseless killings ofNigeria's
women and children, Christians and Muslims alike.
"Chief E. K. Clark is committed to the unity ofNigeriaand
peace within its borders. This was aptly demonstrated
when some youths in the Niger Delta took arms against
the Federal Government of Nigeria, resulting in the near
total shut down of oil production; crude oil production
which normally stood at 2.5 million barrels per day was
reduced to 700, 000 barrels daily. Chief Clark led a
delegation of Niger Delta leaders into the creeks to
appeal to the youths to lay down arms and embrace
peace.
How Clark ended militancy in Niger Delta
"Chief E. K. Clark also went to the creeks with the then
Vice President, now President Goodluck Ebele
Jonathan, particularly to Okerenkoko and Camp 5
(which was the headquarters of the militants), thereby
laying the foundation for late President Yar Adua's
amnesty programme.
"Therefore, amnesty did not come on a platter of gold,
but through the genuine determination of the leaders of
the Niger Delta, led by Chief E. K. Clark. Today, crude
oil production inNigeriahas risen to about 2.7 million
barrels per day.
"It is therefore imperative, irrespective of the name
calling, to restate what was said at the NIALS lecture on
the state of Nigerian Federation that "Gen. Babangida
and other Northern leaders must speak out, be
proactive as well as demonstrate genuine commitment
to address the challenges posed by the Boko Haram."
This is more so as precious lives of Nigerians are being
wasted daily across the country in Borno, Yobe,
Sokoto,Kano,Kaduna, Kogi,Abuja, Bauchi, etc.
"Chief (Clark) is surprised that Gen. Babangida would
belatedly suggest that President Goodluck Ebele
Jonathan should use Moslem clerics, when he, by his
experience, and position is fully abreast of what to do in
the circumstances of Nigeria bearing in mind his exalted
membership of the Council of State and his former
position as President and Commander-in-Chief of
Armed Forces of Nigeria. After all, Gen. Olusegun
Obasanjo, a former President like Gen. Babangida not
only spoke out strongly on this issue but went
toMaiduguriin the aim of securing peace for the country.
"The attempt to label Chief Clark as an ethnic jingoist
has no basis whatsoever as he has always believed
and maintained that no ethnic group should be a
second class citizen in Nigeria and that no Nigerian life
whether from the North or South, East or West should be
wasted.
"Taking regard of his age and stature, Chief Clark wants
to state that he fully forgives Gen. Babangida whom he
regards as a younger friend for the unfortunate
statement attributed to him. If anything, Chief Clark
holds the view that the thoughts and energy exerted by
Gen. Babangida against him should urgently be
redirected towards finding a lasting solution to the Boko
Haram menace in the North.
A call for dialogue
"It should be restated that Chef Clark has severally
emphasized the need for dialogue with Boko Haram
and other aggrieved groups with a view to
resolvingNigeria's current security challenges.
"It is in this vein that Chief Clark speaks to his good
friends in the North, including General Babangida once
again, irrespective of Gen. Babangida's threat of
litigation, that they should openly condemn Boko Haram
and join hands with the Government and good people
ofNigeriatowards finding a lasting solution to the
challenge posed by the Boko Haram menace. Any laxity
on their part would, either wittingly and unwittingly,
potentially put them out as accessories to the present
security scourge in the Northern part ofNigeria.
"If this simple advice above is urgently heeded, it will
save Gen. Babangida the need to wear uniform once
again at the age of 71 to fight for the unity of Nigeria."

BREAKING NEWS - Fresh communal clash in Benue kills 10

No fewer than 10 persons were feared dead, with property worth
millions of naira destroyed in a renewed communal clash that ensued
between residents of Ojantele and Ijegwu communities in Otukpo and Obi
local government areas of Benue State. The crisis, which broke out
between the border communities on Tuesday night, followed a land
dispute adjoining the warring neighbours.
The representatives of the communities prayed the House of Assembly,
through a motion, to call on the state Commissioner of Police, Mr.
Christopher Katso, to deploy his officers and men in the crisis zone,
in order to restore law and order in the communities. Honourable Baba
Ode, representing Otukpo/Akpa constituency, who raised the motion on
Wednesday at the floor of the assembly, informed the members that he
received a phone call on Tuesday night intimating him that fighting
erupted between his constituents and the neighbouring Ijegwu community
in Obi Local Government Area. Supporting the motion, Honourable Nick
Eworo, who represents Obi constituency, regretted that the communities
had, in the last 10 years, been hostile to each other .Meanwhile,
Benue State Police Public Relations Officer, Daniel Ezeala, said he
was yet to be briefed on the crisis.